How would you say you compose yourself after a stressful event?
Does the world feel like it’s crumbling down, or are you able to see the bigger picture?
Those that are resilient don’t allow for external sources to influence who they are at their core. They understand that whilst things may not be going their way on the outside; they can choose their internal response.
Being able to direct our emotions better allows us to ride the wind when it comes, rather than let it knock us down.So, how is it that some can withstand a tonne of stress without buckling?
What Is Emotional Resilience?
Emotional resilience is our ability to handle and adapt to stressful events.It determines how we interpret unforeseen situations and the internal response we have to a crisis. Those with strong emotional resilience will show flexibility when handling these situations. It’s about being able to get back up and understand that things will improve, rather than allowing negative emotions to take the spotlight. Resilience is something that follows you throughout your life. It’s the art of being able to bounce back when things are tough or get back up when life knocks you down.
3 Traits Emotionally Resilient People Share
1) They Can Build a Supportive Network
Resilience doesn’t have to come from yourself alone. In my experience, those that display emotional resilience, more often than not, surround themselves with others that share the same level of resilience. Having a tight-knit circle of people that understand you help take the internal pressure off. A vital part of this is allowing us room to grieve, adapt or work through our emotions without effectively solving our problems for us. A big part of resilience comes from our ability to see through the pain and the emotional cloud. When someone solves that for us, we are unable to build those muscles. Being vulnerable can be an excellent method to communicate effectively and build relationships. When you are open with those around you, you tend to attract a similar type of person to yourself. Whilst it can be scary at first, this can have a significant impact on building a supportive network.
2) They Focus on Self-Awareness
Self-awareness helps us determine what we need when we need it and whether or not now is the right time to reach out to someone for help. Those that are self-aware can be brutally honest with themselves. They know everything isn’t okay. Yet, that doesn’t mean things can’t change. Clouding yourself in emotional darkness may help you get through a rough patch. Similarly to how ignoring a problem may make it temporarily go away. Self-awareness acts as the long term solution for these short term bandaids. It can also be highly beneficial to work on your emotional intelligence as well.
3) They Know When to Ask for Help
Asking for help can be scary. It puts us in a vulnerable state and opens us up to others. A supportive network, like the one mentioned above, can help create a safe space to ask for the help you need. Maybe you’ve met someone in your life that refused to ask for help. They would rather sit on a problem for weeks, determined to get the solution themselves. Try not to be that person. There is nothing wrong with tackling a problem yourself. The main issue that arises is when we do this but still don’t find a solution. Perhaps our emotions get in the way, or maybe we aren’t ready for the answer. When you build a supportive group and know when to ask for help, you will find those that you know will listen with open ears. These are the people in our life that give us the feedback we need to hear, not what we want to hear.
Creating Long-Term Emotional Resilience
Emotional resilience and learning how to navigate our dynamic landscape are things that we build up throughout our lives. The trauma we have faced, and our reactions to that also influence our resilience. We all go through different things and face a varying degree of stress and pain. As such, we all start, or better yet begin, at various points when focusing on building our resilience.
Remember that resilience, like a muscle, is a mental task we are building on and strengthening every day.
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